Want to know how I stay organised as a wedding MC while Im DJing events all across South Australia, from Adelaide city to the Barossa Valley?
Daniel, who DJs for brides across Victoria, from Melbourne CBD and right down the Morning Peninsula, swears by this checklist as well.
Ensure you have a list of the full names of all the speakers and accurate running sheet of whole night
Check name pronunciations will all people who will be announced
Clear jibes with people who will be jibed
Liaise with bride, groom and best man as to what would constitute a speaker crossing the line and what the actions is
35 minutes before
Check with function coordinator that the room is prepared for on time start and adjust time schedule if not
30 minutes before
Gather ushers and ask them to start letting people know to take heir seats
25 minutes before
20 Minutes before
Tell Best Man that people will be seated shortly
15 minutes before
Address guests formally asking them to take their seats
10 minutes before
Address guests formally asking them to take their seats
5 Minutes before
Check that bridal party is ready to enter, send ushers to gather straggling guests
Ask all guests to stand for the entrance of the bridal party
Announce bridal party
Let people know when they can take their seats
Welcome distinguished guests
Introduce self, define host (usually best man) and introduce function coordinator by name
Define how the guests of honour would like to be interacted with and how they wish the guests to behave
Explain any cultural elements of the night
Overview the basics of the running sheet for the guests
Explain menu and service style
Explain restroom location
Explain the event exit process and timing
Key Elements to Introduce
(This is a typical order used, timings and order vary)
Entrée Speeches – Parents & Others
Main Speeches – Best Man, Maid of Honor, Bride, Groom
Dessert Speeches – Telegrams, Open Mic
Open Up Dance Floor
Father Daughter Dance
30 Minutes to Exit
Announce last drinks and ask people to charge their glees for final toasts and bride an groom preparing for exit, explain exit procedure
Thank host, room captain, parents, distinguished guests
15 minutes to exit
Ask people to begin the exit procedure
5 minutes to exit
Conclude exit procedure, farewell toast to bride & groom
I hope this is useful! If you are looking for any more Wedding MC ideas, Im here to help!
Before Donald Trump took office in 2017, it was common practice to make every person attending a meeting at the White House to put their phone in a basket and leave it outside the meeting room. The idea was that everyone should be engaged in the meeting and not distracted.
We’re finding that even with Unplugged weddings there is still the odd guest that pulls out their phone or tablet during the ceremony and ruins your professional photographer shots as well as taking your guests “out of the moment”. It’s what we in the industry call “doing a Sharon”.
Here’s how to make sure your family and friends can’t pull a Trump in the middle of your ceremony:
1. Get a 2-3 big boxes or baskets that will fit in with your ceremony decor. Buy some post-it notes, rubber bands and markers.
2. Organise at least 2-3 people (cousins or kids are good for this and it gives them a way to be included in your wedding) to go around prior to the ceremony and pick up mobile phones and tablets. You may need to frisk the “Sharons” for their decoy phones. Get guests to write their names on the post-it note. Have Prozac available for distressed guests.
3. Enjoy your wedding.
4. Give back their phones after the ceremony or sell them to fund your honeymoon.
There are lots of differences between bands and DJs at weddings. They both have their Pros and Cons. Since we have heaps of information about DJs on our site, I’ll go through the main differences with bands:
As Wedding DJs we often get booked after venues do. It’s a bit unfortunate as the Venue is one of the most important decisions you can make and it has a huge impact on all aspects of your wedding (including the disc jockey and entertainment experience overall)
Here is our checklist to help you ask the right questions at a wedding venue inspection:
Is our preferred wedding date available?
Will we have exclusive use of the venue on our wedding day?
What are the rates for different days or times?
What is the ideal number of guests for this space?
How long do we have at the venue? When can vendors load in and out?
Do you supply location maps/directions we can include with invitations?
What parking facilities are available? If they do have parking, how many spaces?
Is a shuttle service available?
Is public transportation easily accessible from the venue?
Is there a minimum spend or booking fee?
What are the payment terms?
Can they confirm any arrangements in writing?
How much do they charge for extra hours?
Are there hidden costs like cleaning fees?
Will there be any building works or maintenance carried out on the before or of our selected wedding date? If changes need to be made, will you put these in writing with a financial remedy?
Do we need any insurance or permits?
Is there a venue coordinator on the day? How long? Can you meet them?
Can we hold our ceremony here, too?
Do you provide a transition setup for a shared ceremony/reception space?
Can disabled guests be accommodated?
Does your venue have a wet weather back up plan?
Is your venue pet friendly (if they’re included in the ceremony)?
Is your venue child friendly, what is the cost for children as guests (per head)?
Is there a space for post ceremony canapés and activities?
Are there options for dinner the night before or brunch the day after for the bridal party?
Can we do a tasting before choosing our options? Is it paid for?
Is the venue flexible with their menu choices?
Can the venue provide alternative meal options to suit allergies and intolerances?
What vendor meals are provided for people such as your wedding disc jockey? If so, at what cost?
Are they able to be served before or at the same time as guests so that they can get back to work without rushing?
Is it possible to use your own caterer? If so, is there limitations on which caterers we can use?
What is the venuesIn house beverage package? What does it include/exclude?
Is a champagne toast possible? Price?
What type of tables do you have?
Do you have a list of preferred vendors such as Griffin Alliance Wedding DJs? Which vendors do we HAVE to use?
What restrictions are there on decorations?
What items can you remove from the room?
What decor is included? Can they accommodate changes?
What kind of confetti does your venue allow, if any?
Do you have signage to direct guests to the wedding?
When can my vendors arrive for setup?
Does the venue have:
Bridal suite or private space?
Toilets? Are they accessible for ceremony and reception?
DJ / band or Ipod facilities?
Do you have microphones for speeches?
Is there heating / Air conditioning?
Somewhere safe to store wedding gifts?
Furniture available for hire?
Props available for hire?
Chapel on site?
Deck or undercover gazebo etc for guests/ photos?
Do you have bridal or guest accommodation onsite?
Do you offer a discount for booking multiple rooms?
Do you provide a complimentary suite to the bride/groom for their wedding night?
Can the wedding party get ready at the venue?
You’ll see thousands of articles like “How do I have an unplugged wedding” but what about after the ceremony?
Humans are about 200,000 years old, society as we know it is about 6,000 years old, industrialisation about 200 year and social media is 13 years old.
We’ve evolved over hundreds of thousands of years to be social mammals, social media shortcircuits all of our ancient way of existing.
A unplugged wedding is a way of pulling guests out of these interactions for 6-10 hours and to be present to the other people in attendance. It can be very tricky for guests to get used to it as Social Media is very pervasive and now that smart phones are so ubiquitous it means that there is ample opportunity to space out and get on social media.
Not only that, but your guests know that they will get heaps of “likes” or “hearts” from adding photos from your event, which is actually addictive. Research shows that when we see “likes” on our photos it releases serotonin. Which is GREAT when you’re at home on your couch, but it does take people away from the Present.
Unplugged weddings are really about returning everyone to the Present and listening, interacting and partying with all their friends and family.
Here are our tips on how to have a proper Unplugged wedding:
The age of marriage has gone up in Australia and what that means is that there are lots of people with kids at your wedding (and with baby sitters)
I’ve seen the changes over the last 14 or so years DJing at weddings in Adelaide and Melbourne and it’s HUGE! Especially with people deciding to have children before their own wedding (especially if they’re in their mid/late-thirties)
One of the main things to be aware of is the impact on your guests of the wedding itself. Often the location needs to be central if they’re coming from interstate otherwise it’s a 3 day trip for your wedding.
Consider getting a babysitter and/or nurse if you have lots of friends with small children, it makes a huge difference if there are professionals at your wedding to look after their kids, even if its just so they can relax over dinner.
Keep the wedding relatively compact, its easier if the wedding ceremony and reception are at the same venue, it cuts down on the time of the entire day for the parents (who got up at 6am and will be up at 6am the next day!)
Make sure the venue has places to breastfeed (although it’s becoming socially acceptable to breast feed in public now, which is awesome) and also quiet spaces that parents can take their children if they need a bit of a ‘timeout’ from the festivities.
Encourage your friends to have a “backup” plan in case their babysitter falls through, nothing worse than a best friend that can’t make it to your wedding at the last minute!
Make sure you have lots of seating, shade and water for your guests during the ceremony if it’s outside, this is always a good idea but it’s imperative if you have pregnant women, children or the elderly at your wedding.
Have something for the kids to do at the wedding. I’ve seen clowns, Duplo blankets, Crayon stations and even included some choreographed kids dances during the reception to make sure the kids had something to do throughout the night so that their parents don’t need to keep them amused.
Another important consideration is whether to make your wedding children-free. A good rule is to allow parents with breast/bottle fed aged children as they may not be able to come otherwise (due to the feeding schedule) and small children are generally pretty easy to deal with. Since young children don’t require a meal it also might save you thousands on your food and beverage package, especially if you’re at a venue that charges full adult rate!
You should also get some children’s ear muffs for little children if you’re going to have a raging dancefloor, not only do they protect the childrens hearing, infancts usually love them as it reminds them of the sound of being in the womb and the gentle pressure of the earmuffs can be comforting (much like a swaddle)
I’ve recently been reaching out to some Wedding Planners around Victoria (I’m a Melbourne Wedding DJ) and recently had a few weddings where my clients have hired the venues themselves or DIY’d certain segments of the ceremony or reception and been a bit stressed as they’ve had to coordinate parts of their weddings days themselves (something I don’t advocate, enjoy the day rather than deal with logistics).
After reaching out to a few of the top planners (“Hi, what do you do and what do you specialise in?”) I got the same responses from a few:
After explaining that I run a DJ business and often have Brides and Grooms that need help i then get the following types of responses:
Can you guess which one we’ll be passing our clients on to?
So you’re looking at booking some fab entertainment for your wedding and you’re leaning towards a Melbourne DJ instead of a Melbourne wedding band? Great choice! They’ll bring along their own professional equipment, they’ll look and sound amazing, they’ll get the party rockin’, they’ll play all the right music, they’ll even let you choose your own songs.
How do you know? Unless you meet them beforehand, see and hear them in action, it’s a hard call, isn’t it?
During my 18 years as an MC and entertainer, let me tell you, I’ve seen some disappointed brides and grooms who have been ripped off by unprofessional DJs –– shifty operators who have turned up looking scruffy, whose equipment may as well be a home stereo unit, who turn up late, or don’t turn up at all, who haven’t even got a copy of the bridal dance.
That’s why we love working with Griffin Alliance. With these guys, you don’t have to worry about any of these risks. I respect the fact that all Griffin Alliance DJs are professionally trained and experienced in weddings and functions. That’s a point I can’t emphasise enough to brides and grooms who, let’s face it, are probably booking entertainment for the first time in their lives.
And since it’s your first time, you can’t be expected to know the ins and outs of how entertainment is run on the night. I’ve seen brides and groom make their grand entrance to a big fat silence because the DJ hasn’t bothered to communicate with the wedding co-ordinator, or is outside having a smoke instead of manning the decks.
Incidences like that would never happen with Griffin Alliance. These guys keep on their eye on the ball and their head in the game, so they’ll never miss a moment. And only a professional wedding DJ will know to follow your schedule closely, will be able to provide guidance on timings and types of music, and will ensure all your entertainment needs are met –– whether it’s a special song for your dad, or a microphone for the speeches.
And these guys actually enjoy what they do. Your wedding isn’t just another gig to them. They care about your big day, they care about their music and importantly, care about their reputation.
You’ve probably heard the term ‘attention to detail’. It’s thrown around a lot in the wedding industry, in online advertising, on brochures. But let me assure you, I can confidently say it applies 100% to Griffin Alliance. Your entertainment is in no safer hands. These are DJs you can trust, DJs who will give their all to make your day the best you hoped for.
Whether you’re feeling that you don’t know much about planning your entertainment, or whether you know exactly what you want from your DJ, these guys will deliver.
It’s pretty rare for me, as a live entertainer in a Melbourne wedding band, to want to promote what is essentially my competition, but a wedding is wedding –– the one day of a couple’s life where they can’t afford to take risks. So if your heart is set on a DJ, I would wholeheartedly point you in Griffin Alliance’s direction.
0418 594 524
I just got off the phone with Nik Edser from NikNat Entertainment as a guest on his podcast, The Wedding DJ Show.
We had a chat about lots of different DJ and Wedding industry topics including our history, changes in the DJ industry in general, benefits of DJ bodies such as the DJAA for the industry and Brides and Grooms and the pros and cons of Elitism in the industry.
Check the Podcast out here
If you look at most Facebook Wedding Groups as well as Wedding Advertising Websites then you will see the common phrase “You HAVE to meet up with your suppliers (especially wedding DJs) before you book!”
No you don’t. Seriously.
a) the first meeting with a wedding vendor is called a “Pre-Sales meeting”, that means that the meeting is 100% about selling to you. Have you noticed that 99% of wedding suppliers don’t ask whether or not they’re the right person for your type of wedding before they ask you for a meeting?
If they push for a meeting then you know it’s a used-car-salesman type situation.
b) The meeting tells you nothing about their performance on the day of your wedding. The best indicator of future performance is past performance.
c) Meetings are the greatest cause of the “Wedding Tax”. Did you need to have a meeting with your 21st birthday DJ? No. Do you think that wedding DJs in Australia are jacking up the price to compensate for 2-3 in-person meetings? You’re dead right they are.
It’s literally 2-3x the amount of time for each event.
Smart clients that don’t require in-person meetings (Griffin Alliance have meetings on phone/Skype/Facetime to save on scheduling and travel time) are paying for those wedding vendors to meet with the harder clients. They’re paying for all those people they met with and never booked. Madness.
d) The easiest way to “add value” is to do more work for the same wedding. Would you prefer an amazing DJ on the night of your wedding or someone that spends 40 hours in preparation for your wedding and sucks on the night. If the price is the same then you can buy a DJ worth $200/hr or $30/hr for the same cost.
IF you need in-person meetings then you should be paying 2-3 times as much for the service as the average DJ. If not, beware.
e) Meetings were useful before the internet. Before I moved to DJ in Melbourne I was the lead DJ at The Wedding Source in Adelaide. I used to meet with every client as this was before Google was a thing. Now you don’t need to verify that someone is good face to face, you can check out their Facebook , Instagram, Pinterest, websites and Industry affiliations. We’re on ABIA and on the committee of the Melbourne Wedding Group, there are literally hundreds of people in the wedding industry you can ask about our ACTUAL DJ services that have seen them with their own eyes. Or you can check out the feedback forms we get back and talk to the venue managers that were working on the night. This is a thousand times more powerful than a meeting in person at a cafe or your home.
I’m personally one of only 3 DJs on the first 50 results on Google for “Wedding DJ Melbourne” that has a current weekly public DJ residency.
About 70% of the DJs in the “top 50” have never performed in public because they’re usually not good enough. This applies to all wedding vendors in some aspect. Meetings are the only sales tool that doesn’t depend on your performance skills.
f) Planning meetings in person are generally a waste of time. We used to always hear this phrase:
“oops i forgot to bring the planning sheet i filled out”
Most planning happens in fits and spurts. Thats the reality.
Ideally we send you the planning forms and you and your partner sit down for 8 hours and get your whiteboards out, fill out the required sections, do a brainstorm of all the potential songs and then whittle them down to a top 3 for each category and then make love in the moon-light while you consider what your “first dance” will be.
Realistically what happens is you chat about it while making spaghetti bolognese and your partner is on the toilet and any other time you have available. Then you hear a song 3 days later at the supermarket and go “This is RAD” and just chose your Cutting the Cake song.
It’s far better to talk briefly on the phone several times in the month leading up or emailing us for some song ideas that suit you (not googling “top 10 romantic bridal songs of 2016 that are unique but not shania twain”)
g) You can tell a lot about a person by talking on the phone or Skype. Follow up your intuition by confirming it by contacting their networks in the wedding industry.
h) Your time is valuable. Great wedding vendors (especially wedding DJs) are expensive. So is your time. If you only meet with the 10-20% of vendors that you NEED to meet with then you will save yourselves 40 hours of time. Thats a weeks wage that you could have earnt. It’s also a weeks wage that you’re wedding vendors don’t need to charge you for. Congratulations, I just saved you $3,000 – 10,000 that you can now spend on wedding professionals.
i) Weddings are the same as Corporate events.
The reason why is that they ONLY use companies like Griffin Alliance that have years of experience and industry references. If Tiffany & Co. or Sony don’t need to meet with us before the book our DJs for a $100,000 event then does anyone need to for a wedding?
j) “But I need to meet with the DJ or MC to make sure we get along”. Fair enough, just make sure they’re going to be great on the night and that you’re happy to budget the extra 100-200% to pay for their extra time. Being Friends with your wedding vendor on Facebook doesn’t mean that they will do a great job on the night. You don’t need to be friends with Gordon Ramsey to get a great Steak in Las Vegas.
k) Rapport is a SKILL that needs to be trained. Even if you get along with your wedding vendor over an hour at a meeting, doesn’t mean they have the skills to create rapport with not only you but all of your guests within minutes? This is especially important for DJs, MCs, venue managers and celebrants. The only way you can know is to either BE at one of their prior weddings or ask your friends of other people in the wedding industry.
Exceptions that prove the Rule:
So I strip back all of the traditions, and peal back the curtains on your marriage and shine a big light on it so your friends and family aren’t celebrating a wikipedia entry on wedding tradition, but instead, they’re celebrating the fact that the two of you don’t hate each other, but you actually adore each other and that means that you have an awesome future ahead of you. Plus I wear wooden bow-ties. In fact, maybe just say I wear wooden bow-ties, that’s simpler :)
– Interview with Daniel Toop @ Griffin Alliance (Wedding DJs Melbourne)
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Here’s a bit of education if having a raging dancefloor is important to you:
– Noise restrictions are due to residents making complaints to council about sound from past weddings.
– Proper sound insulation or ceiling mounted speakers are really expensive and a lot of venues dont want to pay
– The restriction is put against their Liquor License, so they can lose their business if they get too many complaints. Email me if you want the links to figure out if a venue has current noise restrictions
– The “traffic light” systems that some venues have work this way:
The old systems actually cut all the power to the DJ, so it actually kills the power for about 20 seconds and then reboots everything. Peak volume SHOULD be when everyone is on the dancefloor and at the peak of the night. Having the music go off during a raging dancefloor can absolutely kill the mood. A lot of the newer “traffic light” systems also keep the music on but just compress it to keep it the same volume, which basically means that the higher the volume goes to the limit the worse the music will sound.
– Check the dB levels if the venue has restrictions. Some venues will tell you that 70dB is fine for DJ music. We usually run at about 70 for canapes up to 100-110dB for dancing and our speakers can put out up to 130dB.
Your TV at home is usually at about 70dB when youre watching a movie. Here’s a chart to give you a feel for how loud things are relatively. (see chart)
– There are ways to lower the volume passively at the boundary of the property if you have your heart set on a venue with restrictions.
– A good way to check if the venue has restrictions is to ask if your DJ can bring their own sound system in, if they MUST use the venue’s system then 99% of the time that means that they have restrictions
As a wedding DJ, I never tire of watching couples as they unite for their first dance. This tradition has existed since time immemorial.
As I watch, I often think; what is a wedding? I mean underneath the lace and bubbles, the music & fairly lights?
The wedding is a custom that has been passed down from generation to generation, and has endured both because of its value as an institution in society, but also, and importantly, because we instinctively defend what we grow up with.
When we are young, we have experiences, and as we age, we often seek to emulate the success of the elders that we respect. The very fabric of our society relies on this fact, but as well as staying stable, society years to evolve as some members experiment with new practices that push the boundaries of the status quo.
Every couple has the choice. Do we want to maintain the status quo, or should we create a modern wedding? If we push for a non-traditional wedding, how will our family and friends react? Should we get married at all?
As a wedding DJ, I work with couples grappling with these questions every day, and based on my conversations with thousands of brides/grooms, as well as my work as a behavioural scientist, here are 7 questions that I encourage every person to ask themselves once between the time they get engaged and the time they say I Do.
The wedding is one of the oldest social institutions that survives to the present day, and its expression through time and across cultures varies greatly. Yet there are some elements of the wedding that have survived, unchanged, through time.
By understanding the history of such an ancient rite of passage, we can make informed decisions about whether a classic or modern wedding is our best choice, and we can figure to how to create a non-traditional celebration that is expressive of our hearts keenest hope while still making it a service to our community.
I think a lot of people get so obsessed with the wedding and the expense of the wedding that they miss out on what the real purpose is. It’s not about a production number, it’s about a meaningful moment between two people that’s witnessed by people that they actually really know and care about.
Here’s a resource for people to get a feel for the timeline for their DIY weddings, I do recommend that you get at least one wedding professional in to make sure everything runs smoothly (whether its a “day-of” wedding planner, caterer or Entertainer (such as ourselves) who can run the timeline on the day.
(These are all VERY rough estimate times but should give you a good feel for things)
Before the wedding day
Wedding Marquee set up
Hire delivery to site made
7am Hair and makeup
?am Buttonholes and bouquets delivered (usually at the grooms for button hole photos when getting dressed)
12:45am? Photographer gets to Brides’s location to take photos
1pm Makeup finished (depends on number of artists, number of bridal party and if theyre doing upstyles etc as to how long)
2pm-4pm Cake, centrepieces, musicians, DJs arrive to set up
3pm caterer arrives on reception site (self catered)
2:30pm Bridal party photos (if photos before ceremony)
3:30pm Family photos (if photos before ceremony)
4:15pm Groom and Groomsmen get to the Ceremony location, so do celebrant, musicians (acoustic, singers etc) and wedding coordinators
4:45pm Bride arrives and ceremony begins
5:15pm Ceremony concludes
5:25pm Group photo
5:30pm Bridal party photos (if photos after ceremony)
5:45pm guests leave the ceremony venue
6pm canapes start for guest at reception venue
6pm Bride and Groom Arrive at the ceremony reception (If photos before ceremony)
6pm DJ starts playing at reception
7pm Guest are seated for dinner and wedding party is introduced
7:15 Food service starts
7pm-12am Speeches, cutting of the cake, garter/bouquet and first dance can be done any time BUT make sure they dont conflict with food service periods (ie entree 7:15pm, dinner 8:30pm, dessert 9:30pm as a example)
???pm Sunset photos (time depends on season and location, its currently 7:40pm in Melbourne, Australia)
??? Photographer leaves (make sure you have all the formalities finished before they leave)
11:50pm Bar finishes
11:55pm Last song (big finale?)
12am Bride and Groom into wedding cars and big finish
Post event: make sure you have someone that can clean up without you, let them know what needs to be done with everything after you leave (ie where does the cake, flowers, hired gear go?). Most venues require everything loaded out the night of your event, some do not.
The pros and cons of getting married at different times around Melbourne:
Summer in full swing
Dry and low chance of rain
Great for outdoor ceremonies without a backup plan
This is peak holiday period so guest may need to change holiday plans
Great for outdoor photo shoots (just bring plenty of water)
School is back, so holidays are over already
Very Hot weather
Late march has the heat subsiding and also is pretty dry
Still hot early March and still peak season prices
Sunny days, daylight savings is over and a lot of venues have their off season pricing
Gets dark earlier, so friday weddings are less popular but sunday early weddings work well
Great for woollen suits and layered dresses
Perfect for industrial/warehouse weddings
Not great if you want outdoor photos or reception
Great pricing from reception centres!
Perfect for European summer honeymoons
Good time for surprise Engagement-party-weddings
Usually wet and cold
Global warming is making August a better option as it’s getting drier and hotter every year
Sunset is coming back for photos
Pricing is still off-season for venues
Still usually raining so definitely need a wet weather option
Still pretty windy, but heating up slowly and outside of the summer scheduling craziness
Still in limbo weather-wise, pricing starting to come up from venues
Unpredictable weather still, so still need a wet weather option
Early december is great weather and dry
I personally think that New Years Eve weddings are great if you have family from interstate or overseas as they can work it in with a holiday
Late december is crazy with Christmas work functions and school events
After Xmas weddings can also stop holidays for friends (same as january)
Expensive as youre competing with corporate events for the same vendors and venues
I often get asked about how to create a Wedding Playlist for people that are having a DJ for their wedding. Here’s my advice:
If you’re looking for something to make your wedding stand out from the others then sometimes Wedding Games can be a great addition.
They don’t have to be too cheesy or time consuming, here are some different ideas but don’t be afraid to come up with your own too!
With about 40% of marriages ending in divorce, the last thing you want to deal with is tensions from divorced parents on your big day!
A lot of parents get along with each other after divorce but weddings can be stressful and it’s the perfect place for problems to occur, here are some ways to deal with it before it boils over at your reception.
-Figure out who’s paying for what, with no strings attached.
-Sit them down separately and talk through your concerns with them
-Try and keep their alcohol consumption down if they cant handle their alcohol
-Take time to organise the table seating. Some parents want to be equally close to the bridal table, which might mean putting 4 tables equally distant from you! Talk to the function manager if you think this might need to be done so that they can put it on the table plot. I’ve DJd weddings in Melbourne that have had parents moving Name Cards on tables because they wanted prime position!
– Figure out how the speeches will work, if they get along then a speech together is awesome! If they don’t, then maybe split the speeches before and after dinner so that they dont feel that they’re “competing”.
– Try and get your parents (or in-laws) to catch up before the wedding socially. Quite often parents wont see each other for 10 years and then meet their new wives or husbands AT the wedding for the first time. Best to get the awkwardness out the way before the wedding if possible.
-I MC’d one wedding at St. Pauls in Adelaide (it’s been renovated now) that had a sunken dancefloor and they separated both sides of the room for each family. No one from either side talked to the other, even the dancefloor was segregated! I felt bad at the end of the night because only about 40 people danced but the Bride and Groom were stoked, because the last time their families had met they had fist fights on christmas day!
-Get the uncles and aunties involved, if they are good at dealing with conflict then get them involved in dealing with your parents as its a very emotional day and they may go through a lot, which you cant deal with because your day will go so fast! Plus you don’t want to have to babysit your parents on your wedding day. It can be sad that family don’t get along, just remember its not your fault.
Most importantly, remember that your day is about you and your partner and not about other people’s relationships. Make sure you have fun and relax as much as possible, at the end of the day most parents just want to know their kids are happy.
Here in Victoria there are a lot of Wedding Ceremony and Reception venues that are on Council property that do not allow ANY smoking on the grounds whatsoever and the percentage is certain to increase over the next few years. The government is also looking at legislating to ban smoking in private venues that have food and beverage but that will probably be a few years before it is attempted to be put through as its very unpopular (as you can imagine) with smokers.
Some ideas for how to minimise the impact on you and your guests of a non-smoking wedding venue are:
– Let them know on the invite, let them know where they CAN smoke, even if its on the boundary.
– Tell them that it’s the venue/council’s rules and not your own, quite often smokers may take offense if it seems like your choice as a lot of people aren’t used to blanket bans on smoking outside, yet.
– Take into account that some people will smoke and make adjustments accordingly, I was the wedding DJ and MC for a wedding and had to go around the back of the venue to find the father of the bride as he was nervous and having a cigarette out of sight of the venue staff, keep this in mind and check everyone is in the room.
– In your Wedding Day Kit, put in nicotine patches and gum so that you can give it out as needed during the ceremony or speeches. You don’t want your friends or relatives to miss your special moments on the day because they have an addiction to nicotine, now isn’t the best time to go cold turkey!
If you have any other good tips then let us know.